Why 50 Shades of Grey ISN’T the worst thing to happen to the BSDM scene
In some ways, the fetish and BSDM scene is entwined with the goth scene. For example, one of the biggest fetish events happens at Wave Goth Treffen. And with nightclub events that encourage the wearing of PVC, Latex, etc, talking about the fetish scene is very relevant to a website focused on the goth culture.
One recent complaint within the fetish scene is that 50 Shades of Grey has ruined it. Both in terms of from the outside looking in, and from the inside. I am here to dispel these myths.
Note: I am not going to try and defend anything within the book or the movie. Just argue against the idea that the culture around 50 Shades of Grey is running the culture for other people.
50 Shades of Grey has exposed fetish to the mainstream in a negative way
If there is one thing that 50 Shades of Grey should not be used as, it’s as a guide line to the BSDM or fetish scene. The book is so completely full of bad advice, inaccurate ideas, and frankly dangerous actions. There have been much better lists put online than I could ever be able to manage of everything that is wrong with 50 Shades of Grey’s ideas of BSDM.
But, here is the thing, but has still exposed the public to BSDM and made it more approachable. It means that if you are out in the open about your tastes, and you are trying to talk to other people about it, then you don’t have a problem with people not having a single clue about it. Furthermore, thanks to fifty shades of grey, it’s no longer seen y the general pubic as something “weird” that only weirdos are into, but something that is quite common.
Of course, you may have to deal with “so like 50 shades of grey” but there is a chance now to educate people.
The scene needs new people
One of the common problems with any groups is that after a while, the number of new members starts going down, which can spell certain death for the long life of something. To misuse Darwin; in any ecosystem, new lifeforms need to be constantly introduced to the population.
If 50 Shades of Grey is people’s introduction to unlocking or realising aspects about themselves, then great! The point now is in education people on safe, sane and consensual. We’ve all had really bad introduction to topics before. Ever taken a programming course? You probably learned some really bad practices straight away. Learn how to play sports? You probably were introduced with some really bad techniques. But, as with anything, once someone is shown the right way, they become better.
Isn’t being part of the BSDM and Fetish community also about helping people when they need help, and being friendly?
Even without the communities help, people do think critically about 50 Shades
Think of how many different articles there are online about the dangers of 50 Shades of Grey. One thing that people sometimes assume is that just because someone reads or watches something, that they agree with everything in it. That’s not the case. People don’t just leave their critical thinking at the door because they are reading what is (literally and figuratively) a fantasy book. The world that Anna and Grey are in may as well be a strange alien world where contracts seem to be enforceable. And with the amount of people who have reacted to it, can anyone deny that it is an erotic fantasy for many people?
In fact, for people’s who first introduction to BSDM is 50 Shades of Grey, chances are, they’ve already done Google searches, searched for forums, read through articles, and really taken a proper look at the scene. I see it as a hard-science fiction fan being attracted to the genre by star wars, or even a goth coming into the scene after heading My Chemical Romance as a youth. Or even playing with legos while younger being the path to becoming a structural engineer. A lesser thing at a start can just inspire a great journey.
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